What do you wish for most in the world?
Anonymous

Oh gosh, that’s a hard one.

I guess, understanding and appreciation. I could say equality or world peace but let’s face it, neither of those will ever happen. Even in a perfect world, you can’t have equality. The world can’t function on it. However, if we had understanding the world truly would be a better place.

Example: The world needs wait-staff and it needs leaders, for sake of simplicity, I’m going to say governors, because that’s the first that popped into my head. However, you wouldn’t expect a waiter/waitress and a governor to earn the same amount of money. In an ideal equal world, both would be paid the same amount. However, obviously they aren’t going to be doing similar work and therefore, it is actually unfair that they’d be paid equally. Thus, that pay gap is going to have to be there.

However, that’s where understanding comes in. If they understand there’s that gap, but still appreciate the work the other puts into what they do, then that gap does not matter. Let’s say our governor goes to eat at the restaurant and is served by our waiter/waitress. The waiter/waitress didn’t vote for them, but still gives them good service because they are still working hard, the governor tips well, despite this person being well-known and this person being “below” them.

Also, equality has this hint of sameness to it. You can’t practice different ideas and feel certain ways if you’re supposed to be equal to everyone else. With understanding and appreciation, yea, you can have your ideas and disagree with others, but you don’t insult them for their beliefs. You just say, “I see where you’re coming from but I don’t agree for these reasons.” You can actually foster discussion rather than debate. Instead of just yelling and belittling someone for disagreeing with you, you ask them why they have those opinions and explain yours so they can see your view and you can see theirs. It doesn’t become a who has a bigger cock fight. You don’t expect the person to leave the discussion believing what you believe, just having a better understanding of the opposite side. And you know what, when you have better knowledge of the opposite, it doesn’t mean you’re weak in your ideas. If anything, it helps you discuss them more. You can mold your ideas and have better ways of arguing for them if you know and get what you’re arguing against. You can bring up it’s shortcomings even if you know its positives.

So really, as nice and quaint as world peace and equality sound, I’d much rather have a world where you can argue for your ideas. However, I don’t want to live in a world where it is nearly blasphemous to mention an opinion like the world we live in now. To think properly we need to be able to discuss our ideas, and that’s hard to do when you’re automatic response to anything that sounds like it may be against you is hostility. Not everyone is picking a fight with you because they don’t agree with you.

So, challenge to you followers: next time someone says something you don’t agree with and your first reaction is getting mad, stop yourself and ask them in a calm fashion more about their ideas. Don’t argue with them at all. Don’t try to change their thoughts. Just ask.

You might learn something new.

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